Hello Gang, if you are as excited (aka desperate) for summer to come as we are, you’re going to love what we’ve been cooking for you!
In this issue, we’ll introduce you to the mind-blowing world of conscious touch and cover our own personal experience attending a sensual touch workshop.
👀 Wait, what? Tell me more!
Correct, we attended a sensual touch workshop to learn how to massage a penis like a professional. And it was SO. MUCH. FUN.
Below I’ve detailed my own personal experience so that you get an idea:
It was a virtual workshop, starting at 8:30pm and finishing at 10pm. I attended with my partner (penis owner) from the comfort of our bedroom. Before the start, we had a couple of glasses of wine to discuss how we felt about the event and making sure that we were both in the right headspace.
(Believe me, we were genuinely super excited about it but a check-in in these situations is mandatory 👍).
The first half an hour, the host introduced us to the concept of conscious touch. Without getting into much detail, it is the practice of being present and aware of the sensations that touch create in your body (both from the receiving and giving end), and syncing the movement of your hands with the sensations.
After the theory, she moved on to demonstrate the different ways you can stroke, hold and caress a penis (and balls, we’re obviously not leaving them behind ❤️) on a model for the remaining hour. I know one hour of penis massage sounds like a lot, but it was slow paced, incredibly relaxing and the build up was totally worth it - you can ask my partner if in doubt 😉.
In my case, where I was a giver, I experienced a complete connection with the way I was massaging my partner and how his body was reacting to it. We essentially became one.
The event went by so quickly we couldn’t believe it. It was definitely a date night to remember, we had a soft cuddle session afterwards and a great night sleep which lifted our mood for the rest of the week.
😍 When's the next one?
Well, we loved it so much we partnered with Jessica, the host, to offer the same workshops to you! We’ll be running them throughout summer and are super excited to bring these experiences to our community.
You can read all about them and get your tickets here. We have penis massage, vulva massage and tantra masterclasses. To get a 15% off use the code GANG15.
Jessica Parker is a certified sexological bodyworker with over a decade of experience in professional touch and specialised in supporting people to discover their true pleasure potential through tailored sex education and events.
🧠 Nurture your brain
Mindful sex: could it put an end to unhappiness in bed? by The Guardian. If you’ve felt disconnected from your sexual self (or partner) lately, this article will open your eyes to the connection between mind and body and the role it plays in our sexuality.
A beginner's guide to mutual masturbation by Vice.
What is tantric sex? by Mindbodygreen.
🍑 Community question
‘My girlfriend’s libido and mine seem to never match and it’s affecting our relationship’
The idea of constant matching libidos is utopian. There are too many factors affecting our libido (hormones, stress levels, fitness activity…) to try to make it coincide with another person.
When you or your partner are experiencing periods of low libido, be forgiving and understanding, it can always get better with some work.
The first step is to openly communicate why this may be happening, in case there’s some worry that is triggering it.
The second step is to take it slowly, but still making an effort (and time!) to regain your sex life. Scheduling a weekly date night to enjoy a relaxed conversation and some light touching, with no expectations to have sex.
When we remove expectations and pressure from ourselves, our bodies tend to activate their instincts and take action on their own.
This may not happen right away, but consistency will help.
At the same time, make sure you’re both having enough solo time to masturbate or practice any self pleasure activity without your partner, to keep you connected with your own pleasure as you work on re-syncing sex in your relationship.
Let us know if it helped and don’t forget to love yourself ✨
If you have a burning question, reply to this email or DM us in social media and we’ll get back to you ASAP!
This issue was written by Alma Ramírez (she/her), co-founder of vibio and sex positive activist.
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